How To Know If Your Husband Is Cheating (Read His Body Language)

  • By: Phil Taylor
  • Time to read: 6 min.

There are many signs that can help you determine if your husband is cheating on you. If he is making excuses to go out with his friends, has lost interest in sex, or is spending more time with his phone, then these could be some of the signs that your husband might be cheating on you.

But how do you know for sure? How can you really tell if someone is cheating or lying to you? In this article, we will take a deep dive into “how to know if your husband is cheating on you” as we analyse their body language and behaviour.

What are the first signs of cheating?

The first sign of cheating is when the person starts acting differently. They might start dressing differently, change their routine or become more secretive about their phone or computer usage.

If they start spending time away from home without telling you where they are going, this could also be a sign of cheating.

Another sign of cheating is if they begin spending a lot more time with friends and family members than before and neglects their responsibilities at home.

If your partner has been acting strange lately and you have reason to believe that they are cheating on you there are a few things you can do to get find our for sure.

Quick Check List:

There are a lot of red flags that can point to infidelity, including:

  • The partner spends less time with the other spouse,
  • Not as interested in sex,
  • Increased social media activity,
  • Loss of appetite for things they used to enjoy together.
  • Unusual behavior such as unexplained absences and secrecy.

What should I do if I think my husband is cheating?

If you think your husband is cheating, there are a few things that you can do. Some of the ways to find out if your husband is cheating are through social media, text messages, or phone call logs.

If he is not cheating, then it might be something else that’s bothering him and you should try to figure out what it is are there money issues or something or someone bothing him at work.

Men often have complicated feelings that they bottle up or try to hide. If you think he’s cheating on you because he’s behaving differently, tread carefully. My advice is to observe.

First, observe your own feelings and insecurities and how they differ from him. Give it a few weeks and see what really changes.

Still Think His Cheating

If you still think he’s cheating, the best thing to do is to confront him with your suspicions.

If you think he might be cheating on you, then the next step would be to confront him about the issue. You may want to bring up any evidence that supports your claim and see how he responds.

The best way to do this is in a cool, calm collective way. Don’t just confront him or accuse him outright, he may just clam up or worst, fire back at you in anger.

The best way is to ask him a few questions before you start you start to probe him. Ask how their day was, simple questions, and then use a technique from Chris Voss’s book Never Split the Difference. Say “It seems like you have a lot on your mind lately.” Or something similar. What did they say?

You are looking for signs that they are avoiding you, or won’t sit down with you. If they do sit down with you, are they acting differently? Most people who lie or cheat will avoid looking you in the eye, or will look away or down.

They may also rub their nose when they are speaking with you as you ask questions.

A big sign of stress is if their blink rate goes up or though the roof (keep an eye on this as you have your conversation).

At this point, it’s important to say that no one piece of body language can tell you if someone is lying. You have to read between the lines. They may simply be understress.

Change of Behavior Shift

You’ve been with your husband for years; some of you know his routines, his behavior. You can pick up on it instinctively. Sudden changes in their body language, facial expression, or speech patterns can be a good indicator that something has drastically changed in their lives.

Things to look out for when confronting your spouse

  • Eye blocking.
  • Turning away.
  • Not wanting to talk with you.
  • Becoming angry.
  • Changing the topic.
  • Avoiding eye contact.
  • Story keeps changing.
  • Sweating
  • Rubbing thir neck.
  • Repetition of the question to buy time.
  • Fading louce at the end of a sentence.
  • Single shoulder shrug.

Out Right Ask

As long as your feel safe and really want to get to the bottom of his behaviour and you have tried everything else. Ask him “Are you cheating on me” The response you hare looking for is “NO” and some kind of emotional response. The reason for the NO response is so they can get across to you they are being honest.

However, if they respond with “I would never do that”,”I have too much to lose” “ I can’t believe you would think I would do that”, “It is not in my nature to do something like that” “ I love you, I would never do anything like that to you”I would never cheat”: then go into a string of convincing statements, then unfortunatley you have your answer.

If this does not work, then it’s time for some detective work on your part.

What are some signs that show that your husband has cheated on you?

Cheating husband

The signs that show that your husband has cheated on you are not always easy to spot. You need to be aware of the red flags in order to identify the most common signs of infidelity.

Some of the most common signs that show that your husband has cheated on you are:

  • If he suddenly becomes secretive about his phone or computer usage.
  • If he is spending more time outside than usual
  • If he is suddenly more interested in sex than before
  • If he is dressing differently than before

What are your most common suspicions while your husband is away?

Many women have suspicions about their husbands while they are away. But, the most common suspicions are about their fidelity.

Men can be very thoughtful and caring when they are away from their wives. They might send love notes or gifts to show that they care for them. However, it is hard to know for sure if the man is being faithful when he is away.

If you love him, you have to trust him. If you don’t trust him, you need to ask yourself why. Are you insecure? Has he cheated on you before? What has happened to make you feel this way?

Talk to him first only if you feel there’s something off about his behavior or if you have some sort of proof. Avoid forcing confrontation, because it may end up backfiring on your relationship.

How can you deal with your suspicions?


It is important to be able to deal with your suspicions in a healthy manner. If you suspect that someone is cheating on you, it is best to talk about it with them and try to work things out. Let him know you care about him and want to know he feels the same way about you too.

I often travel for long hours and stay away for days at a time. I constantly call my wife in the evening when I’m away or check in with her on FaceTime or a phone call.

Saying nothing and trying to find proof will only make the situation worse.


How to know if your husband is cheating on is a difficult topic the truth is, there are so many signs that your husband may be cheating on you. It can be hard to tell if you’re just being paranoid or if he really is cheating.

Going with your gut institic is a good way to figure this out and also with some solid proof such as he spends less time with you then normal, you find out about new women through his social media accounts, he starts missing important events in your life like birthdays or family dinners, he starts coming home later than usual and has no explanation for why, he starts hiding things from you like phone numbers or passwords.

I hope you found the article useful and that your husband doesn’t cheat. If he does, it’s his loss because there are plenty more fish in the sea. Good luck!