How to Anger a Narcissist (The Ultimate Guide)

How to Anger a Narcissist (The Ultimate Guide)

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Sometimes we want to take back control other times we want to avoid angering a person in this article you will learn how to anger a narcissist in 7 different ways.

Narcissists are a difficult personality type to deal with, but there are ways to make them even angrier than they already are.

The best way to anger a narcissist is by showing them that they’re not as special as they think they are. This can be done by pointing out their flaws or weaknesses and proving that other people have these same flaws too. It sounds simple but very effective because you are playing with their ego the main thing that drives a narcissist. There are a few more things we can do to anger a narcissist.

7 Ways To Anger A Narcissist.

1. Control Issues.

Some narcissists are sensitive beings. They get upset over the smallest things and can be hurt by even the most innocuous words. One of the most powerful words you can use to trigger a narcissist is “You have some serious control issues.

This will capture their attention because it points out that they are controlling, which will likely anger them because they know deep down they do have control issues. They will likely deny they have a control issue and this just highlights the lack.

The problem with controlling narcissistic people is they often want to control other people, and they don’t want to change.

2. Hear My Point Of View.

“I would like you to see my point of view”. This is another saying that will anger a narcissist Purley because of their own deep-rooted issues. A narcissist won’t be able to put themselves in your shoes or see it from your point of view, and their default is to get angry.

3. We’ve Already Talked About This!

If you are dealing with a narcissist and you want to anger them, try saying “We’ve already talked about this.” This is a way of taking back control and narcissists will resent this. A narcissist is very closed-minded and will only hear what they have to say.

4. Do You Think I’m That Stupid?

“Do you honestly think I’m that stupid?” A narcissist will see this as you taking back authority over them or challenging them. They will become very angry because they are losing control and the narcissist thinks they are the only one in control.

5. Let’s Talk About Your Mistakes.

“Remember when you made ………….. (name the mistake).” A narcissist will see this as a challenge as they don’t like to have a mirror held up to them. They can only think about how perfect they are when you flag something they have done wrong. It’s a big no-no in their mind and it will definitely anger them.

6. What’s Wrong With You?

You can use this if you want an instant reaction from a narcissist. “what’s wrong with you?” or “why are you talking this way, what’s wrong with you.”This really hits the core of a narcissist’s insecurity, which will show up in their own insecurity. To a narcissist, this is telling them you are ready for battle and ready to take back control.

7. I Can’t Keep Doing This!

A narcissist will not like this and will become angry because you are telling them you will end the relationship, which is a lack of control for them. A narcissist must be in control at all times.

If a narcissist feels like they are losing control, they will do anything to get it back. It may be through an increase of verbal abuse or the misuse of physical violence.

Common Questions And Answers.

1. What is the best way to anger a narcissist? 

It depends on the specific narcissist in question and what their individual triggers are. However, generally speaking, some ways to anger a narcissist might include ignoring them, disagreeing with them, or criticising them.

2. What are some things that you can do to anger a narcissist? 

Some possible things that might anger a narcissist are if someone criticizes them, questions their authority, or challenges their beliefs. Narcissists can also be angered by someone who threatens their ego or their sense of self-importance.

3. What are some things that you should avoid doing if you don’t want to anger a narcissist? 

Some things that you should avoid doing if you don’t want to anger a narcissist include:

  • Criticizing them.
  • Disagreeing with them.
  • Challenging them.
  • Refusing to do what they want.
  • Not paying them enough attention.
  • Ignoring them.
  • Not admiring them enough.
  • Not being grateful for what they do for you.
  • Not feeding their ego. 

4. What are some of the consequences that you may face if you anger a narcissist? 

Narcissists are very easily offended and can react angrily to even the smallest slight. This can result in them verbally abusing or attacking the person who they believe has wronged them. In some cases, it may even lead to physical violence.

5. How can you tell if you are angering a narcissist? 

If you are angering a narcissist, you may notice that they become more critical of you, become more easily offended, or withdraw from you.

6. What are some ways to deal with a narcissist?

Narcissists are difficult to deal with because they don’t care about anything other than themselves. They lack empathy and can be manipulative.

There are a few ways that you can deal with a narcissist. The first is to try to reason with them, but this is often not possible because they will only see it as an attack on their character.

The next option is to set boundaries and avoid the person as much as possible, which may work if the narcissist has low self-esteem.

Finally, have a good support network and get a plan to move away from the narcissist.


Narcissists can become angered by someone who threatens their ego or their sense of self-importance. Things that you should avoid doing if you don’t want to anger a narcissist include: criticizing them, disagreeing with them, challenging them, refusing to do what they want, not paying them enough attention, ignoring them, not admiring them enough, not being grateful for what they do for you, and not feeding their ego.

We hope you have learned something from this article. We do not recommend angering anyone on purpose, as this could result in unwarranted harm or offence. Please check out similar articles here.

Phil Taylor
Phil Taylor Body Language Expert