Why Does a Narcissist Want to Hurt You?

Why Does a Narcissist Want to Hurt You

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A narcissist is someone who thinks very highly of themselves and doesn’t care much about others’ feelings. They often think they deserve special treatment and can make their achievements sound bigger than they are. People have different ideas about why a narcissist might want to hurt someone. We’ll explore some of the main reasons why they do this.

5 Reasons A Narcissist Wants To Hurt You.

1. Hurt People Hurt People 😭

One belief is that they are simply trying to protect themselves. By putting you down, they feel better about themselves and their own insecurities.

Narcissists have a tendency to take things out on other people due to their own insecurities. They will try to hurt you before you can hurt them. This is because they’re nurturing a deep-seated fear that someone will “get one up” on them, and they want to be the one in power.

2. They Want To Control You 🛂

Another belief is that narcissists want to control you and by hurting you, they can do just that. Narcissists are known for their unrelenting need for admiration, so much so that they often have a hard time maintaining relationships.

They may also enjoy making you feel pain as it makes them feel powerful. They want you to yield to the demands they make of you because they seek to control you by mentally beating you down until you totally give in.

3. You Never Made This Promise 😥

Most people with narcissism are delusional about what you owe them and what they think you own them, even though these things are unreasonable and impossible to meet.

They can’t recognize the difference between their desires and reality. All they know is you have disappointed them and broken a promise you didn’t know you made.

Of course, in their mind, they have every right to be angry with you.

4. You’re Faking Your Emotions 😳

When a narcissist makes you emotional, they will assume it is fake. This is because when they cry, they are crying crocodile tears; they are faking it so you must be doing the same. Don’t forget a narcissist will be dramatic and emotional in order to get what they want and think you will do the same to them.

5. It’s All Your Fault 🤦🏻

A narcissist will try to make you think that everything that goes wrong in their life is your fault. They blame you for their errors, they blame you if it’s raining, and they’ll blame you if they failed a test or didn’t get a job they wanted.

They are unable to reason with themselves and don’t know why they feel angry so they will project it onto you, and they will bully you.

It’s hard to know if you’re dealing with a narcissist because they are good at disguising themselves. They are emotional vampires and they can suck the life out of you without you even realizing it. They lack empathy and compassion, which makes them difficult to deal with.

No matter the reason, it is important to remember that it is not your fault and that you did not deserve the pain that was inflicted upon you. 

What can you do to protect yourself from a narcissist’s attempts to hurt you?

There are several ways to keep yourself safe from a narcissist who might want to hurt you. First, try not to become too close or friendly with them. Also, it’s good to stay a bit away from them. If you must be near them, make sure there are other people around too. And it’s best not to be alone with them at all.  Check out more ideas here on how to protect yourself from a narcissist.

Final Thoughts

In short, a narcissist wants to hurt you because they think you hurt them first. They try to make you feel the same pain they believe you caused them. This desire to get back at you usually comes from feeling really hurt and unhappy inside. If you liked this, you might enjoy our other articles on similar topics.

Phil Taylor
Phil Taylor Body Language Expert