How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back When She Wants to Be Friends

It can be confusing and hurtful when your ex girlfriend wants to stay friends. You may wonder what you did wrong or how you can get her back.

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If you want to get your ex back and she wants to be friends, it is important to realize that this is not the end of the world. This does not mean that you are not good enough for her. It just means that she needs some time to process what happened and she needs some space.

It is also important to understand why she wants to be friends in the first place. You should take into consideration if there is a chance of getting back together in the future or if it will be just a temporary thing.

The first thing you need to do is take a step back and analyze your relationship with your ex girlfriend. Think about what caused the break-up and whether or not it is something that can be fixed.

If it was something minor, like a fight over something you said, then you have a good chance of getting back together. However, if it was something major, like cheating, then you might want to rethink getting back together.

Once you have analyzed your relationship, it is time to take action. The first thing you should do is reach out to your ex girlfriend and apologize for whatever it was that caused the break-up.

Next, try to spend more time with her and make an effort to fix the issue that caused the break-up. We will take a deeper look at how to get your ex girlfriend back when she wants to be friends further on in the article.

The first thing we really need to understand is why you broke up in the first place. Once we understand this we can start to fix what we broke up over.

Common Reasons Couples Break Up

  • Poor communication skills.
  • Complacency.
  • Take for granted.
  • Cheating.
  • Inability to grow.
  • Different needs.

Can you think of any of the above? We will take a look at them later to find out how to fix the relationship.

Tip “ Your x could have lied about why they broke up with you” it’s up to you to figure it out.

The Main Reason Most Couples Break Up.

The main reason couples break up is due to a loss of emotional attraction. A loss of emotional attraction is not sexual. If you have heard the line “it’s not you, it’s me,” then you know that she is trying to remove any blame from you and place it on herself.

However, the answer to your problem is quite clear. You have to work on yourself first in order to win her back. But how do you do that?

Understand You First.

First things first, we need to understand ourselves before we can build on qualities that she was attracted to in the first place.

There are many steps you can take to become a better version of yourself. If you feel like you need to improve your personality, work on your confidence and mental health. If you feel like there is something missing in your life that’s important, consider adding activities that interest you.

In order to become a better you, you need to be willing to put in the work. If you want to improve your health, start by making small changes such as adding more fruits and vegetables into your diet. If you want to improve your fitness, try walking for at least 30 minutes every day. If you want to become a better person, don’t be afraid to give of yourself and help those in need of a hand.

Think about what she was attracted to in the first place and make these traits irresistible.

Rebuild the attraction in a new way. Your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want a repeat of the same relationship; she wants something new and different.

Tip “Here are some questions you can ask yourself to figure out what went wrong”.

1. Why did your relationship end?

2. What went wrong?

3. How much do you miss her?

4. What are you willing to change to get her back?

5. How badly do you want her back?

6. What are your specific goals for winning her back?

7. What will you do differently this time around?

8. What are her fears and concerns?

9. What can you

Absence Makes Heart Grow Fonder.

We have all heard the proverb “absence makes the heart grow fonder” well it’s true!

Once you’ve accepted it was also your responsibility to find out why your relationship didn’t work in the first place, it’s time to make her miss you.

This is a one-month challenge where you don’t text her, you don’t phone her, you don’t email her, and you don’t show up where she is, no like on social media, Instagram, Snapchat, or Facebook.

You don’t want to beg or plead with her to take you back, one more chance, etc. The emotional connection has gone, so the best way to get that flame back is not to be around her.

Your absence allows your ex-girlfriend time to heal from the relationship, but this time allows your ex to become lonely or miss you.

Remember, don’t contact your ex if you want her back!

After The Break-Up.

Never contact your ex-girlfriend after you break up. You will be in a negative mood, and in a bad place, you might be going over what was said or done in the heat of the moment. However, you need to realize this is not helping you win her back. You need to change the way you think and talk, you need to have positive body language and become a happier person.

The quality of your thoughts is key to winning her back and the people around you. Your friends will talk so don’t run her down in any way.

Good Friends.

Don’t listen to advice from friends and family, as they will only be on your side. It’s best to hang out with people who lift you up in life. They say that a rising tide raises all ships, and it’s true that you want to be around good, positive people in order to capture some of their spirits.

On the flip side, there are people in your life who want to keep you down. They will try to convince you to stay in the situation that has you feeling like nothing more than a robot, rather than bringing out your true potential. But the truth is, they only want what’s best for themselves and they’ll say whatever they need to make sure you stay where they can keep an eye on you. Remember to stay away from negative people.

Meet New People.

This is a game-changer, when we start to meet new people or groups of people we find out new things about ourselves

Meeting new people is one of the main reasons why we are all here. Meeting new people is a huge part of our human nature and it’s something that transcends culture, time and place. There’s something about sharing experiences with others that makes life more interesting – whether it’s learning about someone else’s life or sharing a laugh together.

One way to meet new people is by joining a group. It is an easy way to get the social interaction you need. Groups can be your friends, family, school or work colleagues and they are all small groups of people who have similar interests.

Start Dating.

Many people think that it’s healthy to start dating in the month of no contact. You never know when you may meet someone who is just right for you and you may not want to get back with your ex. It’s also a way of making your ex jealous and wondering what you’re doing with your new potential love interest.

Most couples share friendship groups it won’t take long for the word to get back to your ex that you the dating seen again.

Change Your Look.

You need to fix up your wardrobe and get down to the gym in order to look your best when trying to get your ex-girlfriend back. Looking good makes us feel good and when we feel good, we move in a more positive way that attracts people to us.

So figure out a new diet plan, get to the gym more often and beef up. Then when the next time you see your ex girlfriend she will be blown away by the way you look.

Remember This.

Giving your ex-space is the best thing you can do when you break up. You want her to miss you like crazy and then be wowed by you when you do finally make contact again.

Connect Again.

Only connect again after 30 days and you have changed the way you think, look and move.

This is a true story that someone told me, after 30 days out of touch with their ex girlfriend their life had changed drastically. This person said they felt more positive and fulfilled than they had ever imagined and way ready to connect again to see where they go from there.

Send A Text Message.

I’m sending a text message. Don’t DM or PM on social media. Text messages are more personal than emails, and they’re more efficient. Check out digtial body lanauge here………………………………….

When you send your text you want to keep it like-hearted and reminder of a fun time you had once. Something like “Remember that time we went to that restaurant in New York, do you remember the name of it?”

This message should trigger memories and the fun you used to have. You want to get in her mind. Once you have the information, don’t overdo the message. Thank her and leave it a week.

If You Don’t Get A Text Back.

Don’t contact her again for another week. You want to leave time to show you’re not too bothered about this and don’t seem desperate to get back with her. Try something different in a week’s time, remember a time when you had so much fun together.

Meet Her For The First Time In a Month.

If you get a reply, your next move is to ask her for help. You can do this by asking for her help with homework or even by asking her advice on a project you’re working on.

When you ask for advice as to meet you for a coffee to go over details, but come from a place of truth, you really want to figure out something. It’s not about tricking her to meet you or you could end up messing things up permanently.

Rebuild Attraction.

You want to start rebuilding that attraction after a month of working out, getting a haircut, and some new clothes? It’s time to show up as your best self. You want to start to flirt with her again and regain that connection.

Remember to keep it playful and positive. You want to build attraction again. If you’re unsure of the signs she likes you again, check out this article on signs she likes you.

Your End Move.

Ok, if all has gone well and you’re in her good books, she feels comfortable with you and is showing signs that she wants to be around you again. It’s time to invite her over.

Ask her if she would like to come over for a meal to say thank you for helping you with your project. Have a date at your home is the perfect way to win her back and remind her of the good times and how willing you are to change.

Questions And Answers

1. How can you get your ex girlfriend back? 

There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as the best way to get your ex girlfriend back may vary depending on the situation. However, some tips on how to get your ex girlfriend back may include being understanding and understanding her feelings, being supportive and understanding her needs, and being genuine in your affection for her, thinking about the why you broke up from her point of view, changing yourself, and connecting emotionally again.

2. What are some ways to win your ex girlfriend back? 

The best way to win your ex girlfriend back may vary depending on the situation. However, some general tips to gaining your ex girlfriend’s love and forgiveness may include spending less time with her, engaging in thoughtful conversations after spending less time with her, being communicative and understanding towards her, and being sensitive to her feelings and needs. Additionally, doing thoughtful gestures or surprises for her can also help show her that you still care for her and want to make things work.

3. How can you get your ex girlfriend to take you back? 

Some tips to gaining an ex girlfriend’s forgiveness and getting back together could include sincerely apologizing for whatever wrongs you may have done, engaging in thoughtful conversations about what went wrong in the relationship and how to fix it, and being communicative, understanding, and supportive. Ultimately, it will be up to the ex girlfriend to decide whether or not she wants to take you back, but if you follow these tips, you may improve your chances.

4. What are some things you can do to get your ex girlfriend to forgive you? 

The best way to get your ex girlfriend to forgive you will vary depending on the situation and relationship between you and her. However, some things you can do to try to earn her forgiveness may include expressing your remorse and apologizing sincerely, trying to make amends or changes in your behavior that she has requested, or simply spending time with her and trying to rebuild your relationship.

6. How do I attract my ex girlfriend back?

Some general tips to gaining your ex girlfriend’s attention and interest again may include engaging in thoughtful and heartfelt conversations, being communicative and understanding towards her, and engaging in shared activities or interests that you both enjoy. Additionally, it may be beneficial to express your feelings and affection for her in both words and actions, as this can help show her that you still care for her deeply. 

7. Do ex girlfriends come back?

Some ex-girlfriends may come back if they realize they made a mistake in leaving, or if they are lonely and miss their former partner. However, in other cases, ex-girlfriends may not want to come back, either because they are happy with their new situation or because they do not want to deal with the emotional baggage that came with their previous relationship. 

8. What are the main reasons why ex girlfriends come back?

There are many reasons why an ex-girlfriend may come back into your life. She may want to rekindle the relationship, she may need help or support with something, or she may simply want to be friends. Whatever the reason, it’s important to be respectful and considerate of her feelings.

9. How can you tell if your ex girlfriend is thinking about coming back?

There’s no definite answer, but there are some signs that your ex girlfriend may be considering getting back together with you. These include staying in touch, talking about the good times you had together, and expressing remorse for the break-up. If your ex girlfriend is doing these things, it’s a good indication that she’s still interested in you and may be willing to give things another try.

10. What are the best ways to get your ex girlfriend to come back?

There are no guaranteed ways to get an ex girlfriend to come back, but there are some things that may improve the chances. First, try reaching out to her and express your feelings. Next, try doing something that she really wants or needs. Finally, try communicating effectively and showing genuine remorse.

11. How can you make sure that your ex girlfriend doesn’t come back?

There is no single answer to this question as the best way to prevent an ex girlfriend from returning may vary depending on the situation. However, some possible measures that could be taken to reduce the likelihood of an ex girlfriend returning may include maintaining communication and having a frank discussion about the reasons for the breakup, remaining platonic friends, or choosing to date other people.

12. What are the consequences of an ex girlfriend coming back?

The consequences of an ex girlfriend coming back can vary widely depending on the situation. If the ex girlfriend is coming back because she wants to get back together with the person she broke up with, then the consequences will likely be positive. However, if the ex girlfriend is coming back to try and disrupt the person’s current relationship or to take revenge, then the consequences could be negative.

13. How long does it take for an ex girlfriend to come back?

There is no one answer to this question as it depends on a number of factors, such as the length of the relationship, the reason for the breakup, and the level of feelings involved. Generally speaking, it can take anywhere from a few weeks to several months for an ex girlfriend to come back or she may not come back at all.

14. How do I get my ex girlfriend back if its impossible?

There are some tips on how to get your ex girlfriend back may include being understanding and understanding her feelings, being supportive and understanding her needs, and being genuine in your affection for her. 


Getting your ex-girlfriend back when she wants to be friends takes hard work and dedication, but it can be done. If she rejects you, you have to learn to move on and find someone else who values you for being you. Thanks for taking the time to read this article if you have enjoyed this read, then check out our other posts here.

Phil Taylor
Phil Taylor Body Language Expert