How To Make People Like You (Made Easy)

  • By: Phil Taylor
  • Time to read: 9 min.

It is not always easy to make people like you. Sometimes it is hard to even know how to go about it. So, we have compiled a list of some tips and tricks that will help you make people like you.

There are a variety of ways to make people like you. One way is to be interested in them. Ask them about themselves and listen attentively.

Don’t just talk about yourself. Be generous with your compliments. But be genuine, not false, people can pick up on false compliments, it’s built into our DNA (more about that later). Another way to make people like you is to be friendly and upbeat. Smile and make eye contact. Be positive and optimistic, even when things are tough.

Be considerate of others and try to put yourself in their shoes. And finally, don’t be judgmental. People don’t like to be around someone who is always critical. Be accepting of others, even if you don’t agree with them. This is easier said than done, but we have great tips to help you achieve all the things here.

Be Interested.

Be interested

Depending on where you are you can always show interest when engaging with someone one be it in a team meeting or one on one. You can use your body language to show you are interested by holding good eye contact, not too long around 5 – 7 seconds when talking and around 10 seconds when listening (learn more about eye contact here).

The second thing we can do is tilt our heads to the side to show a little more of the ear. This lets the person speaking know that you are interested in what they have to say. (Think of a dog tilting its head when it’s interesting.

Become an active listener – listen with intent and don’t allow your mind to fill up with thoughts and questions. Really listen to understand what the other person is saying to you.

Active listening is the practice of focusing on what other people are saying and trying to understand their perspectives. It’s something that everyone can learn, and it has a number of benefits, but the biggest one is creating a good human connection.

Ask Good Questions.

Ask Good Questions

Asking good questions to show interest is a great way to get people to like you, it shows you are paying attention and asking questions on topics they enjoy.

The best way to ask a good question is to keep it simple, one question at a time, don’t ask two or three questions at once. There is a great book called How to Win Friends and Influence People highly recommend you pick this one up.

Observe.

Broadly speaking, we can use our persecution of people to make a good judgment call to their likes and dislikes. For example, take a look at what they’re wearing, are there any teams they support, and pin badges? If so, these people need to feel like they are accepted and belong.

We can use this to our advantage. If they support a team and we enjoy the same sport its a data point we can use in a conversation.

Another example would be the clothes we wear. If the person is wearing designer clothes, this could signal significance. You now know they need to feel important, they add value and need that reassurance in their lives. Using that in a conversation goes a long way to making people like you.

Yet another example of how you can tell if someone is a family person in an office setting is if they have family pictures. It’s a great way to start a conversation with someone and ask about their family or their dreams of a family.

I think you get the idea. Observe and bring it up in conversation in a subtle way.

Don’t just talk about yourself.

Don’t talk about yourself unless asked and, even then, bring the conversation back around to them.

It’s important to remember this rule. I have a friend who constantly talks about himself and his accomplishments. He spends hours talking about his work. To be frank, it’s boring. I know more about the insurance company than most of their employees. Don’t be that guy; ask good questions to keep the conversation flowing.

Compliments.

Compliments

Be generous with your compliments, but don’t overdo it. This is a big mistake people make when trying to get someone to like them.

Giving a compliment is a great way to build trust, show appreciation and make someone feel good. It’s important to note that compliments should only be given when they’re genuine.

If you don’t actually believe what you are saying, the nonauthenticity will come through in your voice and body language. So before you dish out some more compliments, here are some points to keep in mind.

  • Believe in what you are saying.
  • One or two compliments are all that should be given in any conversation.
  • Use your body language to show the other person your authenticity.

Be Confident And Friendly.

Be confident and friendly when talking, allow others to join the conversation. Confident people have an advantage over all of us, so it’s important to be more confident.

Confidence is a trait that every entrepreneur, salesman and person in a leadership position needs to have. If you truly believe in what you’re doing, then you will have a better chance of convincing others to get on board.

But confidence isn’t just about your ability to convince others. It’s also about being more likeable and getting people to like you more too.

Never put other people down or make them feel stupid.

Put yourself in their shoes. It’s easy to be quick to judge people or make them feel stupid but when you do that, you’re forgetting that they could be going through a rough time and just need someone to talk to.

You never know what they may have been through that made them the person they are now so always keep your judgments and opinions to yourself.

Understand Your Own Body Language

What is body language and how can we use it?

Body language is the study of nonverbal communication and physical behaviour as it relates to human interaction. Body language can be used to help you better understand what someone is saying so that you can respond accordingly. It can also be used to decode your own feelings, and even change the way you feel about a situation or another person.

We can use positive body language in the way we connect with a person or people.

To greet someone always flash your eye borrows this shows the other person on a nonverbal level your recognise them, they won’t even know you’ve done this. (Learn more about the eye borrow flash here)

The second thing to do is to smile. There are a few kinds of smiles the two we are concerned with are the false smile and the true smile called the Duchenne Smile.

A Duchenne smile-one that reaches the eyes, on both sides of the face, bringing crow’s feet with it. This is the smile that most people will recognize as conveying happiness.

A false smile non-Duchenne smile shouldn’t necessarily be considered “fake,” however. A more accurate way of describing them might be “polite.” Check out more on the Duchenne Smile here.

Use open body language gestures to communicate non-threatening behaviour. Use your hands when you talk, flash the palms of your hands, keep them open and honest. Check out this wonderful TedTalk by Mark Bowden on the Truth Plan.

Tips And Tricks

What are some tips for making people like you? 

Some tips for making people like you are to be friendly and to smile. You should also be interested in the other person and what they have to say. It can also be helpful to be polite and respectful.

1. Be Interested in Other People.

This one might sound like a no-brainer, but it can be surprisingly difficult sometimes. It is important that you show that you are interested in the other person and want to know more about them. This will make them feel valued and appreciated which can lead to admiration for you or at least a better relationship with them.

2. Be Kind To Others.

Kindness goes a long way! It doesn’t take much effort or time, but it makes all the difference in someone’s day – especially if they are having a rough 

Questions And Answers

Questions and answers

1. What Are Some Things You Can Do to Become More Likeable? 

There are many things you can do to become more likeable. Some include being friendly and outgoing, being interested in others, smiling, making eye contact, and being authentic. You can also try to be expressive and genuine in your communication, and be aware of your body language and tone of voice.

2. What Are Some Small Things You Can Do to Make People Like You More? 

There are a few small things you can do to make people like you more. First, try to be personable and friendly. Make eye contact, and smile. Be interested in the person you are talking to, and ask them questions. Second, try to be polite and respectful. Say “please” and “thank you,” and be considerate of the other person’s time. Finally, try to be genuine. Be yourself, and don’t try to be someone you’re not. People will appreciate the real you, and you’ll have a more enjoyable conversation.

3. What Are Some Things You Can Do to Make Sure People Like You? 

There is no one answer to this question, as people respond differently to different behaviours. However, some things that are generally considered to make people like you are being friendly, being polite, being respectful, and being interested in them. It is also generally helpful to be cheerful and positive and to avoid being negative or critical.

4.How to Make People Like You Immediately.

The most important relationship you’ll have in life is your relationship with yourself. This is why building self-confidence and self-love is crucial for success. Confidence comes from knowing that you are worthy of love and belonging, even when you get it wrong. The truth is: no one likes a know-it-all who can’t admit they’re wrong or humble enough to learn from others.

5.How to Make People Like You in 30 Seconds.

1) Smile:

Smiling is the most natural way to make someone like you. Smiling with your eyes, mouth, and whole face can make anyone feel good. This will also increase your chances of getting a date or job interview.

2) Be confident:

People are more likely to like confident people than those who are shy or nervous. So try not to be too shy and just be yourself when meeting new people. You don’t have to pretend that you’re an extrovert if that’s not who you are! Just be confident as your true self and it will make them feel good around you too

6.How To Make People Like You In 90 Seconds.

The reason people like you is because they want to be liked by you. And the only way to make people like you is to make them feel good about themselves.

It’s not always easy to make someone feel good about themselves, but there are a few things that you can do that will help.

For example, if someone compliments you and then asks for advice, don’t just say “thanks” or “you’re welcome.” Instead, give them advice – it will make them feel better about themselves and it’ll likely lead to more conversations in the future.

7.How to Make People Like You Online.

In this day and age, it is difficult to keep up with the latest trends in social media. There are so many new apps and sites that offer a wide variety of social media services. It can be overwhelming to find the right one for you.

The first step to making people like you online is to make sure your profile is up-to-date and includes a professional photo as well as a description of your interests and personality.

Your profile should also provide links to all of your other social media accounts so that people who want to follow you or connect with you on those platforms can do so easily.

It’s also important not to overshare on any platform, but it’s okay if your posts are more personal than professional at first. The more content you share, the

8.How To Make People Like You Book.

It is not always easy to make people like you. In fact, it can be one of the hardest things to do in life.

The best books on how to make people like you are:

  1. How To Win Friends and Influence People
  2. Think and Grow Rich (Napoleon Hill)
  3. How To Talk To Anybody ( Derek Borthwick)

Summary

There are many tips, tricks and tools on how to make people like you. The one we would recommend above all is to be yourself, don’t fake the matter, and come across as someone who knows who they are.

That’s the best advice anyone can give you on how to make people like you. If you have enjoyed reading this article, be sure to check out our others over at bodylanaugematters.com.