What Does It Mean When Someone Turns Their Back to You?

What Does It Mean When Someone Turns Their Back to You

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When someone turns their back to you, it could be an indication that they are no longer interested in the conversation. It can also be a sign of anger or frustration. The person may feel that they have been wronged by you and do not want to look at you anymore.

If this article, we will explore why people turn their backs on you and what you can do to prevent this from happening.

Why Do People Turn Their Back On You?

They Don’t Want To Support You.

You have a different view on life or you have a vision you want to achieve, and the person turning their back on you doesn’t support your view or help you to achieve your dream.

They Feel Wronged.

One of the most common mistakes that people make is the simple mistake of sending the wrong text message to someone or saying something in front of them that they can’t take back. This can cause a person to turn their back on you.


Friends and family members often turn away from those who have risen in their careers and have better lives. They want to feel as if they are just as successful as you are, but don’t feel like they can get there because of the way society has been structured.

Taking Sides.

Another possibility could be that you’re currently in the middle of a disagreement with someone, and another friend has sided with them and turned their back on you. We see this kind of behavior on reality TV all the time, and the same could apply to your life.

Move To A New Level.

You’ve found success but you’re unable to get people to follow you. That isn’t uncommon, and it’s more about the type of person that you are. Sometimes that difficult road means progress for the ones going through it and for others they don’t see the path.

They don’t see you as valuable anymore.

The person in your life who has turned their back on you no longer sees value in keeping you around them.

When you are suddenly turned away by someone who you thought was your friend or family member, it can feel like the most painful thing that has ever happened to you.

The person who has turned their back on you may do so because they are getting on with their lives and no longer values you as a friend.

You are A Bad Friend

You don’t show up when asked, you don’t reply to messages, and you don’t make an effort with your friends or coworkers. Simply put you are a bad friend.

Being a good friend can be difficult, especially when you’re dealing with things like demanding jobs, tight schedules and personal life. But if you never see your friends and don’t make an effort to communicate with them, then it’s not just about being lazy or forgetful -it’s about being selfish and the more selfish you are, the more likely you’ll find that most of your friends have turned their backs on you.

You’re Selfish.

You only think about yourself, and you lack consideration for others. You do what you want, when you want, to profit or please yourself.

It is easy to do what you want when you want, for your own gain, but when you disregard the needs of others and think only about yourself, it leads to poor relationships and people will turn their backs on you.

Who Are The Most Likely People To Turn Their Backs On You?

According to a highly-renowned social psychologist, the three most likely people to turn their backs on you are your spouse, a close friend, or a co-worker.

What Should You Do When Someone Turns There Back On You?

The first step of dealing with someone turning their back on you is to find out what this person’s contribution to your life was and how they were good to you. The next step is to wonder if the issue is a part of a bigger problem in their life, or if instead there’s something going on inside yourself that needs mending. What value were they really adding to you in the first place?

If you still feel like a person is worth being in your life then its time to confront this person and try to work out the problem. If that doesn’t work, you should try to find a new group of friends who will be more supportive. Let them go; they weren’t your friend in the first place.

Why Do People Turn Their Backs On You?

Walking away from someone you’ve cared about or loved can feel like a death of sorts. If you’re the one who was left, it’s also possible that you may turn your back on the person who left you.

I personally have turned my back on my eldest friends because they didn’t move on with their lives and were time and energy consumers.

Question You Should Ask Yourself.

It’s common to be in a bit of drama, but if you’re constantly starting the drama then it’s worth taking a look at yourself and seeing why.

Often people who can’t take the blame for any situation find themselves in this situation, so it’s worth looking at why you feel like everyone has turned their back on you. It’s more than likely you have done something wrong or offended them.

How can you tell if someone has turned their back on you?

Questions to ask yourself if someone has turned their back on you

  • Has this person stopped talking to you?
  • Has this person stopped returning your messages?
  • Have they tried to avoid you or acted like they didn’t see you?
  • Are they no longer interested in being around you?
  • Is it the same when it comes to other people in your life, too?

If the answer is yes to most of the questions above, then your friend may have turned his or her back on you.

Are they trying to avoid you?

There is no way to know for sure what someone’s intentions are, so it is impossible to say for certain whether or not they are trying to avoid you.

Are they no longer interested in what you have to say?

If they are no longer interested in what you have to say, then they may have lost interest in you entirely.

Do they feel like you’re not worth their time? 

From what I can tell, they seem to be indifferent towards you.

What should you do when someone turns their back on you?

When someone you care about suddenly stops talking to you, it’s natural to want to know what happened. Give the person some time and space and see if they contact you. If not, reach out to them. Ask what’s up with them and why they don’t spend time with you anymore.

If they don’t tell you, then you have to question whether they were a good friend at all. If this is the case, there are a few things you can do to make new friends or become more likeable.

Change Your Body Language

You can change your body language to become a more positive person. Body language is an important part of your mental health, and it can be changed to become more positive. Reading more books, joining the gym, and joining social groups are all ways to work on your body language.

Find New Friends.

Joining local groups on things that interest you is a great way to build relationships and make new friends. On social media, you can find groups for anything from hiking to cooking. In-person, try attending events hosted by Meetup or joining your local running club.

Become More Interesting.

Go travelling, take up a new hobby, try new things, and meet new people.

There are few things as refreshing as a change of pace. If you’re looking to make a change in your life, travel can be the perfect way to do so.

Basically, think outside the box and try new things.


When someone turns their back to you, they are indicating that they do not want to talk to you. This can be an intentional act of rudeness or simply a sign that the person is not interested in talking to you. 

In order to understand what might have caused someone to turn away from you, it is important to evaluate their needs, wants and expectations. If you are no longer meeting these needs and fulfilling these expectations, they may have felt like their relationship with you was not fulfilling in the way they needed.

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Phil Taylor
Phil Taylor Body Language Expert