What Makes a Narcissist Uncomfortable?

What Makes a Narcissist Uncomfortable

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There are many things that can make a narcissist uncomfortable. One of the most common triggers is when someone calls them out on their behavior or tells them that they are wrong. We will take a deep dive into what makes a narcissist uncomfortable so you can get a good understanding of what is really going on with them.

Narcissists do not like to be challenged or to have their authority questioned, so this can often lead to them feeling defensive and becoming agitated or even aggressive. Other things that can make a narcissist uncomfortable include feeling like they are not in control of a situation, not being the center of attention, or being ignored or rejected. 

Narcissists are uncomfortable when they feel that someone is not giving them the attention that they need or when they are not the center of attention. They also feel uncomfortable when someone questions their authority or competence, or criticizes them in any way.

10 Ways To Make A Narcissist Uncomfortable.

1, Disagree with them.

Narcissists are very defensive when they disagree with others. When you disagree with a narcissist, they are forced to defend themselves even if they don’t understand the topic or it’s a regurgitated option. This is where you can outshine them or back the narcissist into a corner.

If they don’t understand the topic of conversation and you challenge them, they will eventually show their true colours and be exposed for all to see. We don’t recommend you do this as it could trigger the narcissist into more aggressive actions.

2. Put them in a situation where they’re not the centre of attention.

One of the most common traits of a narcissist is their need to be in the spotlight and they will do anything to get it. This trait can be seen when they are put into a situation where they are not at all the centre of attention, like at a party or working conference.

They will not only talk louder than everyone else but also do things like change their words and interrupt people to keep themselves at the centre of attention. Narcissists are often known for their sense of entitlement, which is more than just being a bratty kid who always gets what they want.

3. Threaten their image.

The one thing a narcissist absolutely must have at all times is a good image. They will do anything to protect that image and if you challenge them or put shade on their character, they will absolutely retaliate in the most malicious and underhanded ways possible. This is a way of drawing them out and exposing them for all the world to see.

4. Ignore them.

A narcissist believes that everyone else is observing them and applauding their every move. They need your energy, your emotions to feed of and if you give them nothing or you totally ghost them all together, this will drive them insane. It will make the world seem like an empty place for them because they won’t able to feed of your emotions. This is one of the best tactics you can use to really make a narcissist uncomfortable.

5. Make them feel insecure.

Sometimes it can be hard to tell when your narcissist is feeling insecure and when they’re just being a jerk. So, what are some ways you can keep them feeling insecure?

You can totally blank them and post on social media how great your life is without them in it. Take what makes them feel secure away, it could be clothes, a car, or something that makes them feel good.

If you want to make a narcissist feel uncomfortable, get better at the thing they put you down about. Don’t let them know what you are doing until it to late. This will make them feel insecure and start to shake their world up a bit.

6. Call them out on their lies.

When we say call them out on their lies, don’t do this right away. Start taking notes of their lies and once you have hard evidence, drop them when they’re at their most vulnerable. Once you start calling out the narcissist among your friends or family members, they will have nowhere to turn and will self-implode.

7. Make them feel like they’re not as great as they think they are.

You can just call them out. “Tell them what makes you so great!” Then use silence to answer, if they do at all. Your reply should be “you really think so?” and leave it at that. This will trigger thoughts in their mind and they will start to question themselves.

8. Give them a taste of their own medicine.

Plot and plan on how to get the upper hand on a narcissist.

Show them that you’re not going to put up with their crap anymore and start to fight back. Mirror their moves and then match them 10 times bigger.

9. Expose them publicly.

This ties into number 6 on the list. Expose them publicly this could be the lies they tell or how bad they treat you. Record their behavior and expose them publicly if you can. Or at the very least keep a log of their behaviour towards you. You never know when you are going to need it.

Questions And Answers.

1. What makes a narcissist uncomfortable? 

There are many things that can make a narcissist uncomfortable. One thing might be if someone were to question their narcissistic behavior or call them out on it. Another thing might be if someone were to show them up or make them feel inferior in some way. Additionally, anything that threatens their ego or makes them feel insecure can also be uncomfortable for a narcissist.

2. How can you tell when a narcissist is uncomfortable? 

There are a few key ways to tell when a narcissist is uncomfortable. One giveaway is if they suddenly stop talking or trying to engage with you. Another way to tell is if the narcissist starts making excuses or trying to discredit you. You will see a body language shift and they will become more agitated in their movements or breathing.

3. What are some common triggers for narcissist discomfort? 

There are many common triggers for narcissist discomfort, but some of the most common ones are feeling like they are not being given enough attention, feeling like they are not being appreciated enough, and feeling like they are not being respected enough.

4. How can you help a narcissist feel more comfortable? 

There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as the best way to help a narcissist feel more comfortable may vary depending on the individual. However, some potential ways to help a narcissist feel more comfortable could include being understanding and patient, offering support and encouragement, and respecting their need for privacy and space.

5. What should you avoid doing if you don’t want to make a narcissist uncomfortable? 

There are a few things to avoid doing if you don’t want to make a narcissist uncomfortable. Firstly, avoid anything that might threaten their ego or sense of self-importance. Secondly, avoid anything that could be seen as criticism, even if it is constructive or well-intentioned. Finally, avoid anything that might make them feel inferior or less special in any way.


We don’t recommend you make a narcissist uncomfortable, but if you do what to then there are some good ideas above. The best tactic you can use with any narcissist is to get as far away from them as possible. Delete them from your life and find yourself again.

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Phil Taylor
Phil Taylor Body Language Expert